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Religion of Pedophiles?

Thursday, March 18th, 2010

– Elphaba

I stumbled onto this story via Ayaan Hirsi Ali’s Facebook page; she linked to a story in The Daily Beast.

Meet Nujood Ali.  She’s probably about 13 years old now.  Through an arranged marriage, her Muslim parents gave their little daughter to a man who was not only much older and a complete stranger to her, but one who then raped and made a practice of beating her.  A ten year old!  This plucky kid decided that enough was enough, and she bravely made her way to a courthouse to demand relief.

“I want a divorce!”

“At your age? How can you already be married?”

Without bothering to answer his question, I repeat in a determined voice: “I want a divorce.” I don’t sob, not even once, while speaking to him. I feel trembly, but I know what I want: I want an end to this hell. I’ve had enough of suffering in silence.

“But you’re so young and frail,” he murmurs.

I look at him and nod. He starts nervously scratching his mustache. If only he’ll agree to save me! He’s a judge, after all. He must have lots of power.

“And why do you want a divorce?” he continues in a more natural tone, as if trying to hide his astonishment. I look him straight in the eye. “Because my husband beats me.” It’s as if I had slapped him right in the face. His expression freezes again. He has just realized that something serious has happened to me and that I have no reason to lie to him.

Point-blank, he asks me an important question: “Are you still a virgin?”

I swallow hard. I’m ashamed of talking about these things. It’s deeply upsetting. In my country, women must keep their distance from men they don’t know. And this is the first time I’ve ever seen this judge. But in that same instant I understand that if I want to win, I must take the plunge.

“No. I bled.”

He’s shocked. Abruptly, I have the feeling that of the two of us, he is the one who’s flinching. I can see his surprise, see him trying to conceal his emotions.

Then he takes a deep breath and says, “I’m going to help you.”

 

Apparently, although the legal age for marriage in Yemen is 15, many families overlook this law.  Nujood’s situation is not unusual in countries like Yemen.  After all, the prophet, Muhammed himself,  enjoyed wives as young as 6 years old.

This is one brave kid, and she did, in fact, obtain her divorce.  You can support her cause by buying her book:

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Marriage ain’t for Sissies…

Saturday, February 13th, 2010

…but this chick takes the proverbial cake!

– Elphaba

Courtney “Wife of the Year” Cook explains to military wives everywhere How to Leave a Soldier, courtesy of her article at Salon.com.

Apparently, the allure of a man who uses “words like “valor” and “courage” without irony,” will only take him so far, when he actually steps up and exercises those lofty sentiments with his actions. (more…)

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